Dealing with the issues
Before the restoration process can begin, the sin at its core must be dealt with.

To understand restoration is to not just repent of the sin, but also to realize how far you have fallen to commit, cover and conceal sin.

Think about it! You could Pastor and preach but continue as if the sin would not be uncovered. We are reminded by scripture that everything in the dark will be spoken in the light. You may be living with that reality right now.

The pain and guilt can be overwhelming and even cause you to lose all hope. But understand there is hope. Maybe not in ministry, we will let God decide that later. Maybe not in your marriage, that will be a healing process, but there is hope for you! Did you hear that?

There is hope for you, everything and everyone telling you that has not read Heb. 11:6 Faith is the substance of things HOPED for and the evedince of things not seen.

Stop asking those you hurt to see your hope right now. Hope is proven by fiath in God not people in you. Maybe you have forgotten that principle. So there is your reminder.

Listen! Healing starts when Godly sorrow is realized not when your ministry is over. You may be saying I am sorry, Yes that maybe the case but that is not always Godly sorrow. Many Pastors are sorry they got caught but have not repented.

What is Repentance?
Repent means to stop what your doing and turn completley around. For some of you Pastors that has not started. You are still in the sin that exposed you in the first place. Or worse you are denying or justifying your sin.

That is why restoration is so vital.

What is Restoration?

Personal restoration is the process of spiritually restoring the person who has sinned back to God. I know it sounds simple but that statement alone is a journey. Understand Restoration is not theologically optional. God is the one who restores, not man or his opinion of whether you should be restored or not.

The bible says in Galatians 6:1 "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently."

The word restore in this passage has the meaning "to mend, That is what you need to be mended.

Sin has torn you away from God, your family, your friends and even yourself.

Be honest for a moment, is this how you feel?

Then you need to be restored by Brothers as Paul put it. Those brothers may not be the ones to whom you ministerd to or for but understand why..... It is becuase trust and preception have been losed and broken.

That is why this ministry to you is so vital. You need to be restored. Say that out loud "I need to be restored".

Why did I have you say that? Because death and life are in the power of the tongue.
It starts with your confession. You have to speak it. That alone is a statement of hope!

That means you are ready for restoration. The implication is not a quick fix and those involved must have a long-term commitment to the person who has sinned.

The Restoration Process will uncovers secret sin and offers resources to get you healed

Understand that when there is a moral failure personal restoration is essential.

Understand that personal restoration is the sole focus of the local church and the denominations even though you may not feel it right now.

The Program

Fallen Pastors offers a comprehensive ministry of personal restoration for members, pastors or anyone engaged in ministry. The purpose is to provide restoration and intensive counseling to the individual Christian leader and their spouse for the purpose of personal restoration and marital renewal.
offers a comprehensive ministry of personal restoration for members, pastors or anyone engaged in ministry. The purpose is to provide restoration and intensive counseling to the individual Christian leader and their spouse for the purpose of personal restoration and marital renewal.

The purpose is also to provide counseling, guidance and consultation to the individual pastor, the spouse, the local church, and the denomination in the process of personal restoration.

Perhaps you feel hopeless!
Either you have been caught, or you just discovered your spouse’s double life.
Or, perhaps the struggle seems endless and the pain unbearable. You are not sure you can go on living like this.

It has been said, "There is a silver lining in every cloud." Oswald Chamber reminds us, "that some clouds are dark all the way through." But there is hope! We have seen lives changed and countless marriages restored. The journey is not easy, but it is worth it. ~ You will come through this!

We offer resources, not simple solutions to complex problems.
In all likelihood, competent counseling by a mature and experienced counselor is required. Unfortunately, traditional counseling, week to week, is often a frustrating one-step-forward and two-steps-backward process. Books, tapes, and seminars offer vital information, but not all that is needed in some cases. With over seven years of experience, in the restoration process, we have found that intensive counseling and strong personal accountability is the best approach, offering the best chance of breaking the cycle.

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The problems
We take the distinct approach beginning with the premise that sexual addiction, relational dependence; and divorce" is not a disease.

With the right resources, and ultimately the work of God, radical and lasting change is possible. As a Christian you can move beyond recovery and the fear of a life of endless slips and failures. The following resources are not intended to be an exhaustive list of materials, but they will start you on path toward God. They offer a particular way of biblical thinking about yourself and your situation. They present the view that everything must change, not just behaviors, and that restored relationship with God and others is possible.

False Intimacy

Stealing a glance at a pornographic magazine. Surfing the Internet for sexual images. Finding more excitement outside of marriage than in it. Frequenting chat rooms on the Internet to find meaningful relationships. Soliciting a prostitute.
What lies behind the struggle of sexual addiction?

"Every person needs and longs for true intimacy," writes Dr. Schaumburg. "But, because of hurt and disillusionment encountered in close relationships, many people seek to fill their relational void through false connections—real or fantasized relationships that appear to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment they long for. Pursuing such connections regardless of the cost to one's reputation, health, security, marriage, and self-respect is characteristic of false intimacy."

Moving well beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions, False Intimacy outlines the journey to genuine restoration. Topics covered include:

How to recognize false intimacy and the behaviors of sexual addiction

How to deal with a sexually addicted spouse, client, or parishioner

How to prevent false intimacy and sexual addiction in your children

The causes of sexual addiction

The healing and restoration process

"The finest work available for all who struggle with their sexuality or want to help those who do."
—Dr. Dan B. Allender, author of The Wounded Heart

"Dr. Schaumburg thinks through the realities of sexual addiction and offers a biblical perspective with wisdom, clarity, and compassion."
—Dr. Larry Crabb, author of Inside Out

"The chapter Preventing Sexual Abuse in Your Children is so good, it is worth the price of the book. Every parent should read it."
—The National Council on Sexual Addiction of Colorado & Wyoming

"This is the best book available on sexual addiction that I've ever read. Too many books that I've seen have given a superficial analysis of this problem, then offered a weak solution adapted from the twelve steps of AA (which focuses on stopping behavior, not on attaining Christian maturity)."
—Bob Davies, The Exodus Update

"False Intimacy provides a cogent, powerful, and most importantly, a biblical analysis of dealing with sexual wrong."
—21st Century Christian Magazine

"Each time I hear of another pastor who has sunk in the quicksand of sexual sin I'm in disbelief and wonder why. False Intimacy attempts to explain why. It exposes the land mines of sexual addiction dismembering individuals, families and churches. We recommend this book for every church library."
—Leadership

Who is Broken?
In the beginning, God created both maleness and femaleness as expressions of His likeness. Our sexuality was made for intimacy to express the glory of God. In our fallen world, that glory has become ruined. Sin has damaged our sexuality and perfect intimacy is no longer possible. Real intimacy is a mixed struggle of sorrow and joy.

False Intimacy has become a substitute for real intimacy. What was "very good" is potentially evil when sexuality is expressed through perverse and averse actions. Sexual brokenness is more than simply a "disease" or "dysfunction." Tragically, sexuality often is shattered through expressions of pornography, adultery and other behaviors.